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The obsession with being thin is nothing new.  Mostly young women and girls are targeted and are being bombarded with unreal imagery that sets the groundwork for years of self esteem problems.


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If there were more messages about healthy bodies and lifestyles, I think we could all sleep a little easier.  Just about 300 years ago, robust, heavyset bodies were embraced. Many women had thick legs and arms that looked like they could take on the demands of caring for her family.  They had voluptuous breasts to feed their many children and the tummy pouch proudly left behind from her pregnancies.  Isn’t that all a part of being a woman?  If you are lucky enough to be able to have a pregnancy, miraculously grow a human being inside of your body, shouldn’t that be embraced?  Shouldn’t your stretch marks and your c-section scar be one of your favorite things on your body rather than your most dreaded?

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Society and Hollywood have slowly shaped the way we view women.  Why are women still viewed as the weaker sex by allowing the shaping and molding of the ideal woman, leaving

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little autonomy for the ‘real’ ones.  Media has definitely been a catalyst in warping modern society’s impression of what the female sex should look like.  Marilyn Monroe in my mind, was the turning point.  Yes, there were other celebrities photographed and told they were too fat (Judy Garland for example), but when Norma Jeane Mortenson crossed the threshold into her famous persona, people were mesmerized by her beauty and pose.  Marilyn became the eras model of beauty.  She was photographed everywhere she went and the public began their fascination with her private life.

In modern times, I think it is out of control.  There is less focus on the talents of an actress or musician and too much on who their dating and what they’re wearing.  A young girl growing up today can’t help but to pick up on that.  Though we’ve had these concerns ourselves growing up, the young girls today are flooded with constant images (the images are in their phones that are glued to their hands 😉 ).  Celebrities with perfect hair (probably extensions), perfect bodies (probably lipo suctioned and tucked),  and the newly popular giant butt (can those even possibly be natural??).

Women are NOT the weaker sex!  What we may lack in physical strength, we definitely make up for in just about every other sense.  What can we do to help the youth really see this?  That women are so much more than their exterior.  Why are young girls being molded to think they have to parade around, like a catwalk, in order to attract attention?  Why are young boys taught to watch the catwalk parade as if there is nothing wrong with it.

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Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian are examples of a giant question mark, to me.  What are they famous for?  Are they okay with being the world’s eye candy?  I recently saw an interview Kim Kardashian did on her father’s transition and I was blown away by her intelligence.  She had wise and witty responses to many of the questions being asked.  I thought to myself, why is she diluting her intelligence with her pursuit of physical perfection?  Some may say, why cant she be both?  Marilyn Monroe is a great example of this; she didn’t lack the attention when it came to her appearance, but the attention to her appearance hid her precocious intelligence.  She wanted badly to break out of that, so people could accept her natural beauty and mind.  She failed to escape from it because she never learned to love and accept herself.

Maybe that is where we need to start, by teaching our young girls to accept themselves.  Teach them that they don’t need to wear makeup to school because it covers their real beauty and distracts from their opportunity to learn.  Teach them to love their natural hair and natural curves.   Tell them they are smart and courageous  before you tell them they are beautiful.  Let’s help our girls feel empowered from the inside, because the outside will naturally reflect.

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